When I was driving in South Africa this past week I saw this interesting bumper sticker “My smoking is my decision, so back the F*%$ off!). Interesting!
It can make a person think about the mentality of people out there. Where is the middle ground?
To me, if something I am doing is impacting people around me, I don’t take offense if they have something to say about it. I also expect to be able to do the same if something that they are doing negatively impacts me. I think that’s what a relationship is. However, when I voiced this to my sister, her response was “No, then you have the right to F&%$ off.” It’s interesting how the perspectives of two family members can be so different.
I wonder if this response is just because it is a smoking sticker. I’m sure if I were a smoker I would feel like I was permanently getting “beaten up” by society. Smokers are ostracized all the time. I’m not a smoker, have never smoked and never will, but still I wonder: how many do so in public places because of habit and how many are doing it just because you tell them not too. Does that five year old child that’s constantly testing boundaries living within us ever mature? I know that I have been guilty of stubborness before…doing something just because someone told me not to.
But when I voiced my thoughts to my sister I was thinking about our relationships in general, not smoking.
How many marriages fail because people won’t compromise? Because people insist that it’s their decision, without taking into account the feelings of their partners? How many friendships have been lost for the same reasons?
Have a happy, healthy and considerate day!