I know it’s such an old cliche! But…cliches happen for a reason. They have happened often enough that someone has coined the phrase and millions of people worldwide have decided that it was relevant enough to their lives that they share it.
This is something that focuses on the area of my practice as a Health Coach not (directly) related to food. It impacts your health more than you know and influences your food choices often.
Think about the last time you were really upset about something or with someone. If you’re like most women that I know you turned to an external source for comfort: you had a glass of wine, you ate some pizza, you finished a pint of ice cream. Depending on the severity of your upset, maybe you did all three. This is what we call emotional eating. Meaning that you eat for an emotional need and not a nutritional one. Would you have had that wine/pizza/ice cream if things were going well? Maybe. But, more than likely not (or not all at once).
The most common area in our lives where we tend to focus on the negative is in our relationships. Ironically this is often the most important thing in our lives and the area where we put the most pressure on ourselves and our loved ones. Think about all the relationships that you have had in your life. How many times have you complained incessantly about your boyfriend/spouse/significant other leaving their empty glass on the coffee table, not cleaning up behind themselves or not getting the “honey-do” list done?
What good has come out of these confrontations? Yes, maybe tomorrow there isn’t a glass on the table, but isn’t the “why” more important? If your loved one is picking up that glass just so that they don’t have to listen to you whine is that good enough for you? I don’t think so – I think that you deserve better. Wouldn’t you much prefer if they picked up that glass because you are amazing, they know it bugs you and they want to be better for YOU?
So, how do you make that shift? Apply this to any example that comes to mind. I suggest making a point of saying thank you (not in the sarcastic way) when they pick it up. If they clean they room, make a really big deal about how awesome they are for doing it and how grateful you are that they would do that so that you don’t have to. Do you see the change? That’s not to say that it’s easy to do this, but the results will be a much happier, more fulfilling relationship in many ways if you do.
When I was in school one of the lecturers recommended a Gratitude exercise before we went to bed at night. At a time when most of us run through our mental “to-do” list for the next day and all of the things that stress us out, choosing instead to think about three things in our lives that we are grateful for makes for a much happier you when you wake.
Try it, and let me know how it goes 🙂
Cheers to your good health!